society
Two Truly
Original Stories… on
the Edge of the World
One
of them lived the first fifteen years of his life in Kazakhstan wandering from
one orphanage to the other, and then in the streets. The other was captured
by rebels and escaped, personally experiencing the horrors of war in Sierra
Leone. For both of them, the encounter with Christianity saved their lives.
The fulfillment of a mysterious and good destiny
By Dimitri Kurya Chenko and Ernest P. Sesay
DIMITRI
I grew up without a family. After giving birth to me, my mother left me with
her mother who left me with her own mother in turn. Or rather, first she put
me in an orphanage where I fell seriously ill, and at that point my great-grandmother
took me in. When I was three years old, before taking me back to the orphanage,
she had me baptized according to the Orthodox rite. Until the age of fifteen,
I went from one orphanage to the other, until I left the orphanage and got
busy trying to learn something in life. I studied to become an electrician
in the mines, a stonemason, and finally earned a diploma as an auto mechanic.
All this took place in the space of three years. In the end, they did not give
me either a job or a home, and I ended up in the streets doing all kinds of
things: stealing, robbing, and pimping, even for Russian girls. I did not enjoy
this, but I had to live and so did they, because these girls also came from
orphanages and had nothing to live on. Four years went by in this mess. I thank
God for saving me, when I think that four of my friends are dead–one
hung himself, one threw himself under a train, one died of drugs, and the other
one drowned himself. Most of my friends are in prison, and the girls are prostitutes.
At a certain point, God made it clear to me that I couldn’t go on like
this, because I would have ended up like all of them. I began looking for someplace
to live, working so I could eat, and studying for the college entrance exams.
I found a lady who helped me and I found a place to live; I worked in the fields
planting potatoes and carrots. They fed me, and in the meantime I studied for
the college entrance exams.
In the end, I made it, and enrolled in the university. During my third year,
I took a private course in the Italian language in an apartment of friends–now
they are “my friends”–where I met Fr Livio and another girl
who knew Italian already and was teaching. I studied Italian, and they would
invite me to play or to watch movies with them, but I was going there to learn
Italian, not to play! One day I went to School of Community, not knowing what
it was, not even knowing the others who were there. They gave me the book they
were reading: The Religious Sense. When I read the part where Giussani talks
about man’s fundamental needs, I felt like he was talking about my needs.
I need to love the truth, to be happy; I needed it, and I need it now, too.
So I started saying that we cannot look at these experiences abstractly, because
every person can say what he is living in these experiences.
I asked everybody for explanations; I didn’t leave anybody alone. When
I began to relate to some of them, they became my friends too. After three
or four months, something great happened: my mentality and that newness started
to clash. The newness claimed everything, all my life, totally, and my mentality
separated me from this newness. At a certain point, among the doubts, the criticisms,
this thought came to me: I had encountered something, I was happy, but right
then I was in doubt, and I wasn’t happy. I was losing the life I had
encountered–the newness–because it was passing me by; it was not
inside me and I was not inside it, inside this life. So I let go of my doubts
and started living this experience. I finished the university and became a
magistrate, working also in the Caritas (A Christian charity organization active
in many countries throughout the world) of Kazakhstan; many beautiful relationships
with friends were initiated. I have a great passion for this friendship, and
I am happy to be able to rediscover this truth every day; otherwise, what would
be left is a past that doesn’t make anybody happy.
At the end of August, I met Fr Giussani. What struck me? While I was looking
him in the eye, I asked myself how it was possible that such an old and weak
man had been able to change, to unite, the world, all the while sitting in
an apartment. This impressed me greatly, and, looking at him, I said to myself, “I
too want a gaze like this. I too want to be educated to the Infinite, here
and now, that is happening now and asks to be recognized also in our faces.” This
is why I am here, in this friendship. I am here for this very reason, because
here, I feel I am truly myself, Dima. Before, there was nothing, no family,
no home, no friends; I was alone. Now, I have everything. This is a miracle
that happens every day, if you succeed in staying with this fact. I was deeply
impressed by the Meeting, because I felt that there is nowhere else in the
world where they educate a person to love beauty, the reality we live every
day, going so deeply into looking at reality, as I saw, for instance, the kids
who were guiding and talking at the exhibitions doing. This really strikes
me, touches me, and moves me to live like this.
The other thing that impressed me about Fr Giussani was that he took my hand
and held it tightly; this struck me, and made me think–he was not letting
go of my hand. This made me think that this is what God does with us, He holds
us but does not let us go–you are the only one who can let go, but He
continues to hold you even when you let go; it is you who don’t realize
it.
Ernest
Dear Fr Giussani: I am one of your great friend Fr Bepi Berton’s boys.
I lived in Italy for a year, where I got to know the movement of Communion
and Liberation through AVSI [Association of Volunteers for International Service].
I decided to speak out through Traces, to tell the story of my experience and
the life I am living now after having lived a reality that made me a different
person. I sent a fax to my great friend Alberto Piatti (Executive Officer of
AVSI), to confirm to him that after working with him, with the AVSI President
Arturo Alberti, with Franco Nembrini and other Movement friends, I have gone
from being a boy to being a man.
No matter what, each of us has a road to follow that is destined by the good
Lord–not the road we choose, but the one He shows us, because we live
only for Him and we shall die for Him. I say this on the basis of the experience
I lived personally during the war in my country, the trip I took to Italy,
and now, finally, the fulfillment of my dream: to live with my people.
Why did I go to Italy to stay with these people from Communion and Liberation,
when the good luck had come to me out of nowhere to go to Canada with a four-year
scholarship? Only a month before time for me to leave, Fr Bepi Berton said
to me, “Look, Ernest, I know this change will be hard for you to accept,
but my idea is to send you to see the reality of this CL community in Italy…” I
tell you sincerely that this was almost impossible to accept but, thinking
it over later, I said to myself, “Why not accept? Through Fr Berton,
I have encountered Christ, and only thanks to the example of his good will
to bring relief to the suffering, am I what I am today…” In the
end, I told him, “Father, you know why I have to go to Italy. I’ll
do what you say and try to follow your path.” Then I got married, and
three days later I left for Italy.
The encounter with the people of the Movement began in Franco Nembrini’s
school in Calcinate. Last December, Franco had spent some time in Sierra Leone,
getting to know the reality here first-hand. Through Lorena, a teacher at the
school, I met the Gaini family of Calcinate, with whom I lived a Christian
life. Mama Carmen, a member of the Movement, taught me the importance of the
Rosary. In any case, what struck me greatly from the beginning about the Fraternity
of CL was the sense of charity toward the needy. One day, I discovered something
I would never have believed existed among European Christians. Mama Carmen
invited me to Nembrini’s School of Community for the first time. When
I entered the room, I saw prominent people who sat down in front of the Responsible
of the community. At first, I expected some high-level talk about the political
situation and about education, but in the end I found out that they were there
only to read, learn, and share what our teacher, “Fr Gius,” had
written in a book on the pedagogy of Christ, our Savior. Things came to an
end with a simple prayer, the Hail Mary.
Coming out of the room, I asked Carmen if we had come together just to understand
the life of Christ and how to approach reality. Her answer was, “Yes.” On
the way home, the thought came to me that the Christian community that existed
two thousand years ago is still alive.
After spending six months in Bergamo, I went on to Crema, spending time with
the Fraternity of Fr Mauro Inzoli, where I encountered a reality similar to
that of Fr Berton. My experience in the AVSI office in Milan impressed me deeply.
Besides this, I lived another three months in the Piatti house; Mrs Piatti
is an amazing woman. Fr Giussani, I will never tire of telling you about the
fruits that have been born and matured thanks to your charism.
After Milan, the President of AVSI, Arturo Alberti, asked me if I could go
to Cesena to learn how to manage long-distance adoptions. I worked with Dania
and, above all, I shared the life of the Movement. It was truly a wonderful
experience to be with them.
Fr Giussani, it is impossible to tell you in this letter about everything I
encountered in the Movement.
On my return to Sierra Leone, in the midst of my poor people, I always pray
to the good Lord to help me spread the witness of your charism and that of
Fr Berton. Our only chance for salvation and development in Sierra Leone is
to educate our people so that everyone may have the freedom that all the world
is seeking. On Good Friday, I took about thirty of Fr Berton’s kids to
do our first “raggio” [meaning “ray,” which is a CL
youth meeting]. Since it was the first experience for our kids, we prayed to
Our Lady, reciting the Rosary, and discussed how we can give meaning to our
life. The kids were very happy and asked me if we could organize other “raggios” in
the months to come. Now we are preparing a field trip for the fourth- and fifth-grade
children in our hut-school, which will be rebuilt by AVSI with the collaboration
of La Traccia, the school in Calcinate where I stayed.
Fr Giussani, I ask you to remember me in your prayers, as I always remember
you in mine.
May we all go forward together–even if we are far away, we are in a communion
of souls and thoughts. Good luck to everyone in your work.Ernest
Dear Fr Giussani: I am one of your great friend Fr Bepi Berton’s boys.
I lived in Italy for a year, where I got to know the movement of Communion
and Liberation through AVSI [Association of Volunteers for International Service].
I decided to speak out through Traces, to tell the story of my experience and
the life I am living now after having lived a reality that made me a different
person. I sent a fax to my great friend Alberto Piatti (Executive Officer of
AVSI), to confirm to him that after working with him, with the AVSI President
Arturo Alberti, with Franco Nembrini and other Movement friends, I have gone
from being a boy to being a man.
No matter what, each of us has a road to follow that is destined by the good
Lord–not the road we choose, but the one He shows us, because we live
only for Him and we shall die for Him. I say this on the basis of the experience
I lived personally during the war in my country, the trip I took to Italy,
and now, finally, the fulfillment of my dream: to live with my people.
Why did I go to Italy to stay with these people from Communion and Liberation,
when the good luck had come to me out of nowhere to go to Canada with a four-year
scholarship? Only a month before time for me to leave, Fr Bepi Berton said
to me, “Look, Ernest, I know this change will be hard for you to accept,
but my idea is to send you to see the reality of this CL community in Italy…” I
tell you sincerely that this was almost impossible to accept but, thinking
it over later, I said to myself, “Why not accept? Through Fr Berton,
I have encountered Christ, and only thanks to the example of his good will
to bring relief to the suffering, am I what I am today…” In the
end, I told him, “Father, you know why I have to go to Italy. I’ll
do what you say and try to follow your path.” Then I got married, and
three days later I left for Italy.
The encounter with the people of the Movement began in Franco Nembrini’s
school in Calcinate. Last December, Franco had spent some time in Sierra Leone,
getting to know the reality here first-hand. Through Lorena, a teacher at the
school, I met the Gaini family of Calcinate, with whom I lived a Christian
life. Mama Carmen, a member of the Movement, taught me the importance of the
Rosary. In any case, what struck me greatly from the beginning about the Fraternity
of CL was the sense of charity toward the needy. One day, I discovered something
I would never have believed existed among European Christians. Mama Carmen
invited me to Nembrini’s School of Community for the first time. When
I entered the room, I saw prominent people who sat down in front of the Responsible
of the community. At first, I expected some high-level talk about the political
situation and about education, but in the end I found out that they were there
only to read, learn, and share what our teacher, “Fr Gius,” had
written in a book on the pedagogy of Christ, our Savior. Things came to an
end with a simple prayer, the Hail Mary.
Coming out of the room, I asked Carmen if we had come together just to understand
the life of Christ and how to approach reality. Her answer was, “Yes.” On
the way home, the thought came to me that the Christian community that existed
two thousand years ago is still alive.
After spending six months in Bergamo, I went on to Crema, spending time with
the Fraternity of Fr Mauro Inzoli, where I encountered a reality similar to
that of Fr Berton. My experience in the AVSI office in Milan impressed me deeply.
Besides this, I lived another three months in the Piatti house; Mrs Piatti
is an amazing woman. Fr Giussani, I will never tire of telling you about the
fruits that have been born and matured thanks to your charism.
After Milan, the President of AVSI, Arturo Alberti, asked me if I could go
to Cesena to learn how to manage long-distance adoptions. I worked with Dania
and, above all, I shared the life of the Movement. It was truly a wonderful
experience to be with them.
Fr Giussani, it is impossible to tell you in this letter about everything I
encountered in the Movement.
On my return to Sierra Leone, in the midst of my poor people, I always pray
to the good Lord to help me spread the witness of your charism and that of
Fr Berton. Our only chance for salvation and development in Sierra Leone is
to educate our people so that everyone may have the freedom that all the world
is seeking. On Good Friday, I took about thirty of Fr Berton’s kids to
do our first “raggio” [meaning “ray,” which is a CL
youth meeting]. Since it was the first experience for our kids, we prayed to
Our Lady, reciting the Rosary, and discussed how we can give meaning to our
life. The kids were very happy and asked me if we could organize other “raggios” in
the months to come. Now we are preparing a field trip for the fourth- and fifth-grade
children in our hut-school, which will be rebuilt by AVSI with the collaboration
of La Traccia, the school in Calcinate where I stayed.
Fr Giussani, I ask you to remember me in your prayers, as I always remember
you in mine.
May we all go forward together–even if we are far away, we are in a communion
of souls and thoughts. Good luck to everyone in your work.